Erotic Management

Let's Be Different!

The 21st century human is living an existence that is rooted in traditional therapy and religious morality exacerbated by the freedom and variety of the internet. One part of life is rational and concealed in our reputations. The other part is sexual, raw, and open looking for the intimacy of being seen in our vulnerability and accepted. In the first part, we judge and talk and think about ourselves and this world in a sexless, socially-acceptable fashion. In the second part, when we let down our guard we look at porn, have sex, or go wild with other hedonistic pleasures. Traditional therapy uses the first part (the concealed rational thinker) to release and conquer the second part (the sexually vulnerable feeler). Erotic management bridges these two parts.

Combine Naked Therapies like Massage, Somatic Bodywork, trauma informed touch and Erotic Management lead the curious to discover authenticity. Acknowledging our needs and wants with authentic acceptance focuses on sexuality in a positive way, without devaluation or shame. Divergent Relationship and Erotic Management explore your desires in an attempt to discover something that's exciting and engages the rational parts of your life.

As my clients will tell you, Erotic Management and Nude Therapy are NOT camming or sex work rather it is the best modality I've found to teach sacred sexuality. Nudity is implemented for the progress of the client. Sometimes nakedness is used in the same way a traditional therapist might use techniques like dream analysis, free association, neuro-linguistic programming or play therapy. Other times being naked is part of an attempt to access the client's vulnerability when talking about sexual fantasies or relationship issues, or confidence and performance concerns. We will do what's most makes you feel supported in the moment. Erotic Management occurs in a way that is very different and far more engaging and arousing than anything a traditional therapist or sex worker can do. I am here to help my clients gain insights that can be hard to realize, are challenging, or are often uncomfortable. That’s why it’s an educational practice, and that’s why it’s ultimately a more transformational experience.

How can I see you?

I am based in Chicago and can meet with anyone in the world via webcam telehealth! I provide advice and not so common sense during in-person sessions.

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Frequently Asked Questions: Here are some of the questions I typically get asked by prospective clients.

What does a sex educator do?

I offer Relationship counseling for individuals and couples, erotic management and alternative lifestyle consulting (LGBTQIA+, Polyam, Kink/Fetish).

Let's unpack what your fantasy and fears can reveal for your life.

NUMBER ONE QUESTION ASKED: does a handjob come with that?

As flattered as I am that you think a handjob is worth $1200, the answer to sex acts in my office is always NO. This immersive experience is focused only on sensation mapping and erotic management .

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Contact me today to schedule an Erotic management appointment at my LGBTQIA+ safe space La Grange office.

Check out videos from the "Ask A Hedonist" series.

Erotic Management

Kate's relationship management Is For You If:

You have been disappointed by couples counselors that are not certified in sex therapy.

Your partner doesn’t listen to hear, or you don’t know how to please your partner.

You want to reduce your anxiety and improve your sexual performance.

You desire more intimacy and want to feel the spark again.

If you have these desires, don’t wait any longer! There's no more excuses!

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What is Erotic Management? (LGBTQIA+ welcome)

Erotic Management indulges your curiosity to explore hidden desires in an attempt to discover something to engage the rational parts of our lives in a more meaningful way. Many often partnered men, will either buy sex or seek out traditional therapy, but will fall short long-term in satisfaction wi.

Q: I still don’t get it – why nude?

Nakedness makes your therapeutic interaction with me completely different from a traditional therapeutic experience. You may feel aroused, inhibited, afraid, curious, intimate – any number of things. And these feelings/experiences change the therapeutic picture through massage and somatic bodywork. They change how you feel, what we talk about, how we relate. They change your entire therapeutic experience, so they change the therapeutic outcome.

Q: Nothing’s wrong with me, so why should I seek therapy? What’s special about Relationship and Erotic Management?

There doesn’t have to be anything “wrong” with you. In fact, we’d go one step further and say that the fact that you’re even considering Relationship Erotic Management proves that you are open-minded, adventurous, and thoughtful! Why seek my help, then? Because learning Erotic Management will help you gain power through arousal. With a somatic Therapist you investigate who you are and figure out how you can bring more beauty, pleasure and power to your life.

Q: What are your credentials? Why should I try this?

First off, I am a licensed educator and use many modalities as therapeutic. I am not a licensed psycho-therapist because I enjoy my techniques that are on the bleeding edge . However, I have studied counseling psychology in graduate school and human sexuality post grad, and I have helped hundreds of people, many of whom say that Relationship and Erotic Management has made a huge difference in their lives. Further, I consider myself highly skilled at talking, listening, and counseling while also being shamelessly arousing.

The Specifics of Our Session

I specialize in divergent relationships and accept all genders, sexual orientations, identities and relationship designations. All desires or fantasies are acceptable to discuss without fear of judgement or shame.

Q: How does a session work? What happens during the sessions?

We share our time addressing your needs and desires, wants and fantasies, love styles and personality. Each session is different and unique like you, but generally you decide if you’d like to contribute to The KINDer Foundation charity and then claim time with me through the Calendly scheduling application.

Q: Do I need special software or a camera?

No. When I contact you I’ll give you the particulars as to how you will access the session on your computer, but no special software or camera is needed. All you need is a high speed Internet connection.

Q: Am I allowed to make special requests?

Yes. In fact, I insist. You must make your bold requests. I do have set boundary limits and will only do what I consider to be therapeutically relevant to your progress, but I am also very open minded. Nudity is optional, but explicitness is never considered to be therapeutically relevant.

Other Frequently Asked Questions

Ask a Hedonist!

Q: There’s no way I can afford to do a session with you.

I know these fees make my services too expensive for some people. I have done my best to keep them as equitable as possible. If you are interested in a Nude Therapy session or Erotic Management session but feel you can’t afford it, please join BITE chats. Not only do I occasionally announce specials, I also share "HERO S3X" tips from our workshops. This is an effective way to get in touch with some of the benefits of having a personal session with me.

Q: How can you help someone with a porn addiction or obsessive fetish preoccupation?

Nude Therapy and Erotic Management indulges our curiosity to explore our desires in an attempt to discover something to excite and engage the rational parts of our lives.

Some claim porn addiction emerges because men come to view women as sex objects, and not as real people. A sex object is simply there to gratify them, while a real person is a more complex experience. Ultimately, having sexual relations with a real person can and should be more gratifying than a sex object' fantasy. That’s where erotic management comes in. In your session with me, I can be both sex object and real person because you might be aroused by me as a physical being, but you are discussing deep, personal, sometimes difficult issues with me as a real person. Through this process your fixation to the one-way “sex object arousal experience” begins to dissolve and you open your mind to the two-way sexual experiences you can have in your real life. To put it simply, I work with you to transfer your desire for mindless porn into a desire for mindful arousal, giving you the control and inspiration you need to seek more balance and contentment.

Q: What if I need help now?

Please call 911 or a licensed health professional for immediate or emergency needs promptly.Please call 911 if you need immediate help or are contemplating suicide. You could contact your personal health care professional contact Suicide Prevention Lifeline at http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ I am not practicing under any license and am not the appropriate support for this particular need.

So What's the Next Step?

Please reach us at lookforthegift@outlook.com if you cannot find an answer to your question.

Q: How do I schedule and can I get a refund if I don't like it?

To schedule a session, you need to CONTRIBUTE TO CHARITY. I have a NO RETURN policy because time with me is my gift and acknowledging your generosity with my attention. Please only contribute when you are 100% sure you want a session with me. You have a year from the date you made your payment to schedule your appointment to help with cold feet. There are NO REFUNDS after our hour together.

(And btw, no one has ever requested one 😉 )

Q: What happens once I pay? Can you tell me about your payment process, please?

After you financially contribute to the charity you may immediately schedule a session time from my calendar. After I receive notification of contribution and scheduling we will chat about “Session Details and Agreement” This outreach is important work, so please donate to the KINDer charity to help me fund my mission.

$100 recurring monthly contribution: text me directly any time of day/night each month, starting with a text chat and exchange of selfies for safety or a voice chat.

Q: What is your cancellation policy?

If you decide to cancel your session and do not want to reschedule. You can cancel, and 50% refund will be issued. If you cannot make your scheduled appointment and want to change your appointment time and date, you may do so free of charge as long as it is not within one week of your session date. If it is within one week of your session, you will need to pay a $100 rescheduling fee.

Q: What is the fine print that I agree to when I schedule a session?

For privacy reasons, NO recording of the sessions may be made (video, photo, or text) by you or anyone else. I keep a full recording of the session and if it appears in any form of media, I will know who has propagated it, and I will prosecute to the fullest extent of the law.
Further, by entering a therapeutic session with me you agree that only you are responsible for the actions you take as a result of what happens in your session(s). You agree that I am not responsible for the decisions you make and/or the actions you take and you thereby release me from any and all liability of any kind, directly or indirectly related to anything that happens in your therapeutic session(s).
Your confidentiality is of the utmost importance to me. Therefore, I will never reveal your identity or contact information to anyone. I may use quotes from our emails or sessions in studies or documents or web pages having to do with Naked Therapy, but your anonymity will always be completely preserved and no information will ever be released that could in any way be used to identify you.
I like to have fun. But these are professional services. If I feel you are out of line, acting disrespectfully or rudely towards me, I will warn you that if you continue that behavior I will terminate the session. And if you don’t stop that behavior, I will terminate the session and your payment will not be refunded.
By entering a session you swear that you are at least 18 years old.Current terms of agreement will be sent at time of appointment scheduling.

Services Guide: What to expect from a Coaching session

DETAILS

I help my clients see where their life is not matching their mental blueprint and determine the steps needed to make that happen. Together, we identify the areas where limiting beliefs or self-sabotage steal their joy and hinder their ability to make changes. Then we create a plan to implement better habits and mindsets to assist them in creating the life they’ve always wanted.

Coaching is a collaborative process driven by our needs and priorities. As I teach, I can help guide you through the process of change using proven tools and techniques, but your SMART goals determine the focus of our sessions.

Our time together is centered around helping you understand the skills, habits, and behaviors necessary to create lasting change in any area of your life.

Coaching is about helping you better know and understand yourself so you can create the life you truly want.

FOCUS AREAS

I can help you…

Find clarity around your purpose and mission in life
Develop a disciplined and resilient mindset in relationship power dynamics
Establish goals and determine the important priorities in your relationships
Create new habits to set yourself up for success
Decide how you want your romantic life to look and feel every day

LEARN MORE ABOUT MY APPROACH

1:1 COACHING

1:1 coaching is for clients who want individual attention and advice. This type of coaching provides personalized accountability to help you reach your goals. If you’re ready to do the work, get unstuck, and quickly shift into the next-level version of yourself, 1:1 coaching is right for you.

1:1 coaching includes:

50-min individual encrypted Telehealth calls
Call recordings + notes stored in the portal
Unlimited messenger support during office hours

Options include individual sessions or packages of 3, 6, or 12 sessions.

3 DAY INTENSIVE

My signature 3-day intensive program or 3- month self study program both offer the most support with private coaching sessions. The goal of the intensive is to address key areas of your life that are holding you back and create action steps to help you address them. Throughout the three days, you have accountability and support whenever you need it so that you can create massive results in your life.

The Intensive includes:

(12) 50-min sessions
Call recordings + notes (if requested)
Messenger support
Access to private Facebook group

GROUP COACHING

Group coaching leverages the power of community to create sustainable change in any area of your life. This type of coaching is for those who value connecting and engaging with others who have similar goals and are on the same path to achieving them.

Group coaching includes:

50-min group Zoom calls
Call recordings + notes (if requested)
Access to private Facebook group "Pleasure Bridgeway"

Group coaching packages can be 3 or 6 month long lesson plans.

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